No is not what we want to hear.
When we are building, dreaming, trying... No sounds like "You aren't good enough"
But I have a couple of questions for you...
Why do we personalize no? Very often no or even yes have less to do with us and much more with the person doing the answering.
Why, after someone tells us no, do we think that we should set our sights lower? Who taught us that, and why do we believe it?
Im starting to think that the fear of disappointment is one of the most debilitating emotions in life. It is all too easy to fear the passing emotion of disappointment. But it is just that... passing.
Here is something to try as a life experiment. The next time you hear no, go higher. If you get turned down for a date, ask someone out that seems even more unobtainable. If you get turned down for a job, try for one that is even better. If someone turns you down for a shoot, ask someone that is even harder to get.
Yes. You are right. It won't always work. But sometimes it will. And how cool is that?